“We can’t be afraid of change. You may feel very secure in the pond that you are in, but if you never venture out of it, you will never know that there is such a thing as an ocean, a sea. Holding onto something that is good for you now, may be the very reason why you don’t have something better.”
-C. Joybell C.
What is your relationship to change?
Do you embrace it when it knocks on your door? Or are you the first one to run and hide as soon as the winds start to shift?
For me, I’ve always intensely craved and hugely feared change at the same time. Which has made my life a bit confusing.
The thing is, we need change, because it signifies growth. Without change, we would live such boring, stagnant lives. Lives in which we get so used to our routines and our comfort zone that we settle every single day for something less than what we were made for. And after enough time, that settling starts to weigh heavily on our subconscious. Soon enough, you feel dull, soft, empty, uninspired, unmotivated, exhausted, and bland. I don’t know about you, but those aren’t words I want to use to describe my life.
I’ve always been able to hear an inner voice in me that knows better. Call it intuition, or my gut, or God, or the Universe, or whatever – it guides me in times when I need advice or feel stuck. It’s basically an advocate for change, pushing me outside of my comfort zone.
My big, fat ego, the thing in me who likes feeling comfortable and safe, is always the first to resist this inner guide. Any time I have an intuitive feeling that something needs to change, my ego (the conscious thoughts in my head) starts to chime in: Haaaang on, bud. This doesn’t seem like a good idea. Why would you change anything? You’re already doing fine. What about money? What will people think? Who are you to do something like that? What if you fail? (Insert any other ridiculous limiting belief here.)
So who wins the battle? The ego, with its safe zones and comfort and boundaries, or the inner guide, with its quiet but infinitely inspiring presence in the corner of the mind?
It’s through mindfulness, compassion, and aligned action that we can live more fully in the realm of our inner voice, and kick our egos to the curb. By paying attention to your thoughts, you can begin to question: is this coming from a place of fear (ego-based) or from a place of love (guided by my inner voice)? Is this serving me or holding me back? Is this in line with my bigger purpose or is this causing me to shrink small into the status quo?
Pay attention and see what comes up. Start to question your relationship to change, because as soon as you embrace it, your life will make some radical shifts. I swear by it.
Love over everything,
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